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    Hello guys!

    I am in desperate need, unfortunately.

    The second semester of college has just finished, and I am finally in summer break. This means I have plenty of time to go to the beach, bars, do trails, hangout, etc. However, I do not have anyone to go out with. I mean, I have friends and colleagues, but they all have their own friends groups, which I am not part of. Since they have their groups, they never invite me because I do not know the rest of the people. I am the only one who does not have a group of friends and this is letting me depressed. For example, I would like to go to the beach, but I do not have anyone to go with. To complicate things, I live too far away from the city (in the camp) and from my friends... Also, neither I nor my parents own a car.

    Basically, I am going to be alone this summer because I do not have too many friends to ask to go out... I am so scared of being alone forever... I try to make so many friends, but they always go away, and they prefer to go out and make plans with other people... Will I ever find any really good friend? I promise you that I am a good friend. I always forgive my friends because I am afraid of losing them... Why they never ask me out?

    The fact that it is hard to make new friends after college freaks me out because I only have one more year until I finish my degree.

    Thank you guys for reading what I have written.
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    Hey PRL. Thanks for coming to us for support

    Sorry to hear about this - it sounds like it's been really hard for you. I think at one time or another, we have all felt like we haven't had that many friends which can make us feel insecure. Then, when we feel insecure, this can make us analyse every little thing and think that we are the problem. However, nine times out of ten, we are probably overthinking it. I'm sure you will find a really good friend, and you might even already have one. Why don't you ask them if they want to hang out? I know it upsets you that they have other friendship groups, but I guess this is pretty standard. You might become part of the group if you start asking them more. You could try striking up a conversation with them too. This might help to build the friendship and get things going!

    Also, could you maybe get public transport to the city or ask them to come to you? The truth is, someone people are quite shy and reserved, especially with new friends which means that they will often wait for the other person to make the first move e.g. asking to hang out.

    What do you think about all of this? Hope to hear from you soon!

    - Monsoon

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        Wow, funny that I found this... I feel the EXACT same way. Same with the other friend groups, the far distance...
        My friends are always hanging out with their friends that I'm not friends with, and I never get invited to anything.

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            Hey Carlover455 ,

            Sorry to hear that you're going through the same situation as PRL13 . I know what it's like to feel left out, and tbh, it really sucks. Did you find any of the advice that I gave to PRL in my post helpful? As I said, when we feel this way, it can sometimes be that the person we want to hang out with more is actually just waiting for you to reach out and invite them to something. I guess that someone has got to go first, and it might have to be you that makes the first move. What do you reckon?

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