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    (i already posted it up to other community discussion and then i realized it was nothing to do with gender, so i'm going to put it here too)

    i think im ready to come out as trans. for some reason i cringe when i type it down, because really what im looking for is to be a man, a boy, me.
    so,
    How do you come out to your christian mom?
    She's not the most christian mom out there, she belivies in happiness and there's a reason for everything and everyone.
    How do you plan to come out to your world-blind dad, different world looks and supports me for being a girl, tries to baby me but not my brother?
    He's not christian, he doesnt belivie in religion and is so much different of other dads because he has his own problems and illnesess.
    How do you get your brother on your side and accept you, for who you are?
    He's very similar to me, he was the idol for me when growing up because we played soccer and videogames together. He's not much older than me, we like pretty similar things.
    I'm scared that maybe it'a too much for my mom, she is ill and suffering from a divorce. i wanna come out to her, because shes the one i trust the most. Maybe life gets easier for me, maybe she finds another reason to move to a bigger city to get treatments for me. And my brother will be excited to have a brother. Or am i going to ******* up my relationship with her?
    I live in a small city in Europe and i know some other LGBT kids but i don't know anyone who's really trans, i only know one non-binery kid. They don't really talk about it a lot in school and there's really no one to talk to.
    How do you accept the pressure of coming out, and how do you come out without *********everything up?
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    The way I came out to my Catholic mom was through a letter in which I wrote disguised "I like men" I sent that letter to many other people too. She the next morning came to me and talk about that one sentence in the whole 2 page letter and that was when I told her.

    It took a while for her to comprehend and understand. Longer than my dad did. But she finished by understanding that even if I am gay, god still loves me and that was enough for her to like me too.

    Hope this helps! ^^

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        Hey Kalev. Thanks for coming to us for support . We are here for you throughout your journey. I'm so pleased that you're starting to feel ready to come out as trans and start living your truth. It's such a brave thing to do and it's great that you're looking for support. It's so important to only come out if it's safe. Is there a chance you might be kicked out when you come out? If so, it's essential to only do it when you're in a position to live somewhere else and support yourself.

        The thing is with coming out, acceptance from other people really comes down to them and their own views. We often find that people who have a bad reaction to someone they know coming out do come round to it over time. This means that you have to be really patient with them and be able to see the end result where it's all going well. This article has some useful tips for how to deal with people who don't react well to you coming out: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-par...me-coming-out/

        Also, here's an article about coming out as trans that you might find helpful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/8-tips...iAAEgKG7PD_BwE

        Just know that if you feel everything goes wrong when you come out, this isn't your fault. You can't control the attitudes of other people and try not to feel bad if that does happen. With dealing with the pressure of coming out, it's important to remember that there really is no rush to do it. You should only do it when you feel ready and safe - do you think that's the case right now? This is all your choice and don't feel like you have to come out just because there's pressure. There will probably always be some pressure there, but try not to rush it.

        I hope this helps - let me know what you think

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