sunnyla Posted November 13, 2017 Share Posted November 13, 2017 Since like third grade I've always had a short temper. Like I can just get super angry really quickly and flip out at people and I can't even help it. I don't want to be a douche and I think it's why my girl left me, I would always take it out on here. What shall I do? I can't talk to my dad because he just tells me to be a man MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peach311 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Hey Sunnyla, Welcome to Community. A few questions that jumped out at me when I was reading your post. Firstly whats your Dads temper like and as a family do you guys talk about your feelings much? I think it's awesome that you can see your temper is getting in the way a bit and you have reached out for some advice. Such a big part of changing all behavior is being aware of it in the first place. No awareness no change. Which means you are already ahead of the game because you can see whats going on. When was the last time you flipped out and what was it about? Have a read of this blog too, could be helpful. https://www.ditchthelabel.org/what-to-do-when-youre-af/ You totally have the power to change things and I can tell you really want to. Be patient with yourself though it will take time and is all about small changes, every time you do the slightest thing different that is a step forward. Sending positivity -Peach311 MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spacemonkey Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I have the same problem, but I've found that having someone to confide in, mine is a stuffed animal space monkey, can help a lot. Also, punching a pillow helps A LOT! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peach311 Posted November 16, 2017 Share Posted November 16, 2017 Hey Spacemonkey, ?? Love your suggestions. I find being angry a bit scary and always end up crying instead of staying angry. How are you doing? ? -Peach311 MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peach311 Posted November 23, 2017 Share Posted November 23, 2017 Hey Sunny, How is it going? -Peach311 MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louise19 Posted December 19, 2017 Share Posted December 19, 2017 I struggled with anger a lot too, does anyone have any tips on what helps them? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayb Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 Hey What helps me is exercise, I got into running a while back and it helps me get back to normal when I am raging. A mate of mine tried reading a couple of anger management books and got some good tips there. I can find out his favourite one if you want? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunnyla Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 thanks everyone, this is helpful. since i posted my question i have been much moe aware of my anger and have been trying to do things to deal with it i still sometimes feel like i can go from being super chill to angry af really quickly tho. my dad is pretty much the same. i first remember being like this when he flipped at my mom and then i flipped at him over it and it turned into a huge argument MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcus16 Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 Hey Sonny, Some things I would recommend to do when you are angry would be to... -Write about it in a journal or notebook -Walk for a half hour to get your mind off of things -Listen to music (preferrably calm/peaceful) -Talk to a close friend -Breathing exercises -Use your imagination MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
randomguy Posted April 8, 2018 Share Posted April 8, 2018 Some things i do when i'm angry are: kill guys on xbox games Cycle or go for a walk Think of a quote from tv show like i thought of this speech from doctor who and changed it to match bullies which the changed version is: When you start bullying, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die. You don't know who's children are going to get hurt. How many lives will be shattered and broken. How many feelings will spill until everybody fesses up from the very begging and actually sits down and talk. Personally when i changed that speech to match bullies it's one of the things that made me stop as their has been times people have tried to end their life due to bullying and i've been a bully and gotten bullied. It's not worth it as if someone tries to end your life because of bullying you don't want to end up in trobule with the law and we all bully for a reason and once you actually tell someone it makes things a lot better. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunnyla Posted August 24, 2018 Author Share Posted August 24, 2018 Just checking in.... made loads of improvement. found that boxing and skating are good releases for me so thank you MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pooh Posted November 8, 2018 Share Posted November 8, 2018 I have the exact same thing tbh MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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