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    Hey everyone, I'm a college student and I found this site from Tumblr some time ago where yall were giving some pretty solid mental health/life advice from a Q&A and it really helped me out. Usually my anxiety holds me back from engaging with other people (even though online supposed to make it easier) but I thought I should give this a shot!
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    Hey knickerbocker716

    Welcome to our community . I'm one of the digital mentors at Ditch the Label and I'm here to give advice and support to our members.

    Thanks for coming to us and sharing how your anxiety holds you back. I'm wondering, what is it that you get anxious about when engaging with other people? What are you thinking?

    Also, if you like, we can share some tips with you on how to help your anxiety. Let me know.

    Speak soon!

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        Hi Monsoon thanks for replying. To answer your question, I'm not really sure what it is, but I freeze up and my heartrate goes really fast when I even think about idk going to some club event, joining a zoom call, or any instance where it involves me showing myself and interacting with people. This happened last night actually, I was struggling with my homework and on discord there's a study group session going on and I open discord like twice, three times with my cursor above the Join button and I'm super nervous and I'm thinking a lot but then I'm like ehhhh and I just end up not going and struggle alone.
        I think my brain runs through all the things that can go wrong, like if I tell a joke and no one laughs and I get all embarrassed, or if people even care about me that I'm there, or worst of all if I am being a bother to people when I'm there. Eventually what happens is I just choose not to go because me spending my friday night alone doing nothing outweighs the cost/benefit of me risking it all to "socialize."

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            Hey knickerbocker716

            Thanks for explaining how your anxiety holds you back. You've really helped me to make sense of what goes on in your mind when you're about so socialise. It sounds like, as you said, your brain runs through all the things that can go wrong and that's what puts you off, like you're almost thinking about the worst possible thing that could happen. I'm wondering, when you're able to overcome your anxiety and socialise, how is it for you?

            I'm wondering, have you found anything that helps you when you're feeling anxious? If so, would you like to share it with me? Also, it might be a good idea for you to take a look at the support guides below and let me know what you think:

            https://www.ditchthelabel.org/calm-t...rough-anxiety/
            https://www.ditchthelabel.org/how-i-...-by-max-hovey/
            https://www.ditchthelabel.org/101-ul...reduce-stress/
            https://www.ditchthelabel.org/7-tips...ocial-anxiety/

            Speak soon
            Last edited by Monsoon; 21-01-2021, 06:33 PM.

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                Thanks for those links Monsoon , they are helpful. What I've been doing to try to reduce anxiety is this one trick I was taught in imagining a STOP sign in my head to distract me and then I'm supposed to feel better, it works, sometimes. Another thing I do is writing/typing down all the things that are overwhelming me, numbering them, then putting solutions next to each problem. I don't do that so often anymore but I think it helps me.
                When I actually do put myself out there, I am usually left only remembering the negative parts, like maybe there were good things that happened but since I'm so focused on what words I say or what faces I make, I probably don't pay attention to the positives. So the event or call ends and only moments that made me feel anxious are all in my head, or I reflect on things I should have done instead.

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