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    SenatorConfer Hey, it doesn't sound demanding at all - we all like to feel and in a lot f case hear that we are cared about and valued. Some family dynamics are very different and are not as open and tactile. Is there anyone in your close family / friends that you share that you're feeling like you need some support and ask for reassurance. That's neither demanding or needy - it's simply asking for reassurance.

    The meet up groups are intended to bring in and welcome people - they have been set up for that exact reason. For example I joined one for people who prefer to socialise in smaller groups and were a bit socially awkward. The people I've met all feel the same and I've made some really good friends and we all make an effort to welcome in anyone new who joins without adding any pressure.

    While it's great if we have, for example, a supportive partner who makes us feel loved and valued, it's also really important to love and value ourselves anyway and that person ad value to our lives. You deserve to exist in this world feeling good about yourself, but to get there we do have to challenge ourselves and step forward to take what we need.

    How do you feel about challenging yourself?

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        Blondie There's no family or friends around me to talk to. My mom calls every week, but that really doesn't give me the physical, face-to-face interaction that I crave. I want human interaction, but I get so little of it that I practically don't exist.

        As for groups, I really don't know of any around here. And for challenging myself, I mean I guess I'm fine with it. I still see myself in the mirror and hate what I see, or hear my voice in a recording and despise it.

        I know the saying, "You need to love yourself before you will be loved" is probably true, but I'd rather know that someone else loves me (non-familially). Or at least likes me.

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            Hello SenatorConfer

            Why not research some local groups online then you may be able to meet some people with similar interests to you.

            We all need that face to face interaction so I understand it must be hard without that.

            Have you read some of our new articles, I think they may help: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/the-an...-guide-to-uni/

            Remi

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                Remi I have read that article, but it doesn't really seem to help. I stay organized, eat a balanced diet (though I'm still fat, despite trying to work out), I'm pretty much uncomfortable on a daily basis, I've got no allies or friends on campus, and my mom calls me every week. I try to text my only two friends back home, but they've got their own lives too.

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                    Hey SenatorConfer

                    I understand you have no friends at uni now, but there is still plenty of time to try and make some new friends, there are lots of people that also feel like they don't have allies - you could form together.

                    We all do get a bit busier as we grow up and this is a transitional time for you where you will notice a change which is why you may feel in a bit of a fog right now.

                    Remi

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