Dealing with emotional instability in a relationship

[Aperson]

I have a girlfriend across the seas who is dealing with emotional instabilities, I always do my best to help her and support her, but sometimes I mess up because I’m only human. I wonder how I can deal and help her with her emotions to maybe find a solution for her and for us.

Edited May 23, 2020 by Aperson

[Monsoon]

Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us. We are here to help you through this.

 

I'm sorry to hear that your girlfriend is going through a tough time at the moment. It must be hard for you being overseas and I can imagine it's quite upsetting. It's great that you want to help her out. I'm just wondering, is your girlfriend safe? I want to make sure she is well enough to get through each day.

 

Also, how does she respond to help at the moment? For some people going through a tough time, they are pretty closed off to being helped by others. Maybe you could let her know that she can join our community for direct support? We are here for both you and her during this tricky time.

 

Hope this helps.

 

- Monsoon

[Aperson]

Every time she has an emotional episode I usually calm her down, I try to keep her as safe as I possibly can to my ability, through morning messages that I write before I go to bed, notes to remind her of the positive sides of things and how to focus on them in order to become more used to positivity rather than negativity. As for her safety at home, her parents can often be very strict with her and she often describes her self to be a burden to those around her, something that is actually so wrong and that I want to show her. Where she comes from mental health is not usually touched upon as much as in my own country and I think it makes it hard on her to go out and actively search for some kind of help. I am pretty much the only one she talks to about her problems and I really truly want to make her as happy as she has made me.

Also: I want to add that I do not think she is mentally unstable myself, it is something that she often questions and that she shows a lot of signs of, but personally I don't like putting labels on things, to me she is a lovely and emotional person who often times has a hard time handling her emotions. But her emotions is what makes her such an amazing person in my mind. And I hope that one day with the right descisions I can make her the happiest she has ever been. Thank you guys for what you are doing, you are amazing.

Edited May 23, 2020 by Aperson

[Monsoon]

Hey. Thanks for getting back to me

 

It's great to hear about all the things you do for her and I'm sure she will appreciate it all. I completely understand what you're saying about not wanting to put labels on things. Labels can often put limits on people, so I get that.

 

Maybe you could pass these support guides onto her:

 

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/improve-mental-health/

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/stress-reprogramming/

https://hub.coronavirus.ditchthelabe...avirus-crisis/

https://hub.coronavirus.ditchthelabe...ring-lockdown/

https://hub.coronavirus.ditchthelabe...-to-your-life/

 

Also, as I said in my last message, you could let her know about our online community. We could help her directly here

 

- Monsoon

Edited May 23, 2020 by Monsoon